Winter Cuffing Vs. Spring Flings

 "Winter Cuffing Vs. Spring Flings"

By Jackie da Model

Jackiedamodel@gmail.com

So it has come to my attention that people tend to get together for the long term during the winter, and have casual flings in the spring time. I asked a few different people their opinions on this observation. We all know that the Winter is too cold to be outdoors and guys are too lazy to run around "having fun" in less than 20 degrees. Spring is a time where everyone is enjoying the weather and also activities outdoors and therefore have more of a chance to meet people consistently and date or decide if they want to just "chill".

Weighing the pro's and con's of winter dating and spring dating have led me to the conclusion that making excuses for wanting to commit or run wild tend to come from those who are unsure of themselves. If you can't trust yourself to behave in nice weather what makes you think you will in the cold?.  If you want to be with someone exclusively it doesn't matter the weather, it matters who that person is and what they can offer you. Do they complete you?, Do they understand you?, Can they keep you satisfied? Those should be the ideal reasons, not "I want to stay in and cuddle because its cold so I need a cuddle buddy" or "Lets go speed dating in the spring".

That's the equivalent of the date you bring everywhere vs. the indoor boo. The date you bring everywhere may have won the respect and the honor of meeting friends and family. The indoor boo is most likely only good for sex or companionship. NUFF SAID! Get it together ladies and gents!!!

"Never make someone your priority when you are only their option"-anonymous quote

I have lived and learned and at this time I can honestly say that Love is unexpected, so let's not search in the hot chocolate aisle at the bodega ....if your meant to be you will meet that person at the time best for both of you.

Stay Focused!!

@Jackiespeaks247

comments + feedback welcome!

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I am a good friend of Alex Baez and I have watched him go through a trial of emotion upon the discovery of his father’s diagnosed Cancer. Alex guest hosted with me the day after the news was delivered on my radio show “The Jackie Speaks Show”on www.urbanlatinoradio.com for my very first show. We were each others support.

“The Radio Show was therapeutic” said Alex Baez.

He is a constant reminder to myself and others that a good friend is hard to come by and even harder to keep. I value his advice and his character and if you knew him so would you. He is what I can call one of my mentors in this industry, a man that gives and asks for nothing in return to many for the love of his career. That being said please take a moment to visit the website for his Fathers Foundation. Alex has set up an event as well to focus on a fundraiser which will be on February 10th at the OE lounge in Queens. Anything you can donate would be appreciated, just think if it were you how much it would mean when people help out to keep your family afloat.

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For My Mother - Open Mic Session First time venting after she passed R.I.P. 2005 (c) JDM

In just 2 days I lost my sanity

The mind behind my heart was on it's last thought.

The heart that saved me on it's last beat.

Reality sets in based on what I had to see

I was cool until the call on my cell

The call that set off the last nerve I had

I couldn't react

I jumped in a cab quick fast

Dropped off my niece, got up wit my sisters and did the dash

I cant take this sh!t

Watchin my mother suffer for strength

Hooked up to machines, pumpin her wit medicine

Tryina get her to blink

Attached to her bedside for hours

Her body shuttin down slowly

It was sudden like the collapse of the towers

In a coma but she still heard me

She rubbed my hand and squeezed tight

While I begged her to put up a fight

My sisters lookin out takin turns checkin

Vitals only got worse every split second

Waitin room looked like a slap in the face

You know it's over when there's no seats in the place

Front to back family and friends reminiscin to stay up

My eyes bloodshot red I'm on the verge of throwin up

They forced me to leave, go home and get sleep

I agreed cuz my body was gettin too weak

I told my sister I'd be back in a few and off I went to I.C.U.

To say goodnight to my mother, only to find my aunt beside her

Shes gone now, nothing can be done to revive her.

I burst out in tears as I watched them pray.

I still stand in denial to this day.

To me she's some where Im not.

Ill be there before I know it..it's life's little plot.

We were all born to live life and then slowly get got.



* Value the ones U love b4 its too late thats the lesson I learned from what life put on my plate.- BABY J*-


::::::::::::::R.I.P. Maria Del Carmen 04-26-05:::::::::::::::


::::::::TRU STORY::::::::

-PERFORMED AT AN OPEN MIC AT HUNTER COLLEGE 2005 FOR MY COUSINS OPEN MIC POETRY SESSION. - JACKIEDAMODEL AKA BABY J

Im not ready - The anniversary Trip April 08 (c) JDM

APRIL 2008 A TRIP TO PAY MY RESPECT

Just when i thought i could do it.

When i thought it was gonna be ok?..

I tried. I went to visit, but cried..said I'm ok but i lied!!..

Stood still for 45 minutes..long enuff to daze into memory city.

I tripped on the way out thru the grass, tears blocking my view..tried walking fast but couldnt get my feet and mind to collabo and react

A groundskeeper asked "maam r u ok" as i passed..and offered a hug bcuz i almost collapsed..

Im not over it.. this is just the beginning.. 3 yrs and i still call her name from the kitchen.

All I wanted was to make her proud..Im screaming from my heart..my tears are even loud..they hit my cheeks like rocks..

I begged god to make it stop..and all he said was when your up top..you'll see her later..for now finish your journey and get it together.if you need to cry you have my shoulder..but child everyone's time gets closer.

I turned around, wiped my tears..looked back over my 24 years..this life is un predictable..grimey and difficult..

Obstacles keep testing me, i have my life together but it's missing a few pieces..

Both my parents and a handful of people..

I am happy for those still here..I'm just upset on the same day every year

I have to let it out ..it;'s unhealthy to fake it..my emotions are tidal waves..but i have to face them.

I'm not ready yet.



to be continued..Written by Jackie da Model..// Jackie C. 4-27-2008

Life and Death the unspoken meanings (c) JDM Oct 2009

R.I.P.- Jack, Maria del Carmen, Julius, Abuela Sara, and so many more.

I give it to you. Live a life full of agony, heartache, struggles, some happy moments, surprises, and lessons..only to be with god in the end. Too young to leave with so much that could have been finished.. but too grown to not accept reality.. death comes sneaking up on u.. when u least expect it.

The good go first, but karma sends the bad to suffer in the long run. I go to sleep not knowing if I will wake up tomorrow, because every time I wake up.. Its like someone else didn't. Nothing of material value is worth more to me than life itself.

Why can't everyone live forever? Ill tell u why..because we live to make a name..so that our name lives .. our soul leaves earth. The more fame we have or money we make ..the more everyone notices us. Well that's not always the case. I have an outgoing personality and a successful mindset. I hope when I go.. my name rings bells. whether its positive .. or negative..cuz if anyone throws dirt on my name.. they will only realize that they spend majority of their days, and lives thinking about ME. which means i had an effect on them somehow...

My mother was the woman in my life that showed me compassion..through every up and down I still stuck right by her as she did by me. She raised me and my two older sisters to know better than to ever give up.

My father was the man in my life that showed me the truth..no matter how hard u try u cant trust anyone. Life is a hustle.

To each person in my family, or my circle of friends that I have lost to the battle of life. I love you and you will never be forgotten.

Hopefully everyone values their loved ones and friends like I do and they never betray them. It isn't worth having enemies anymore. I may have like a handful of people I cant stand but I have valid reasons.. it takes a lot to make me hate some one.. and even then.. HATE is not the definition of what I feel when someone disrespects me or someone close to me. So please... don't waste my time if your fake.. just get lo0ost. Nothing personal, I'm just speaking my mind.. and the truth.

JDM AKA BABY J

The story of my Heart (c) JDM

A young female falls helplessly into despair when she comes to the conclusion that life is not fair. Everything she ever loved has been taken away from her gradually through time and spite. Her strongest feature is her independence..that sheds a light of reality to on lookers. This girl is me.

Love is a lesson, when your emotions become your pain there's no turning back but there's always a new beginning waiting for you in some shape or form. I went through a mock relationship where i was convinced it was going to be forever, then one day i woke up..and i never called him back. Years passed and all was forgiven, but never forgotten. Any new face bore the brunt of negativity based on the past; once showing a slight hint of disrespect or distrust.

Many dates, many personalities but no one was right..so on i went with my journey in life. Do for me before i do for you. Successful, and loved by friends and family but that pang of hope has stressed my mentality. That one day i could feel it again.. not what i felt for him.. but something more. That day has not come because my heart is behind closed doors. I opened up to test the waters,..but never more. What i have been through scarred me emotionally and i can't take any more. Please don't question me, just show me i'm wrong.. there has to be a new day.. when my heart will play that song.

Yours truly Jackie ..

Off My Chest 9 / 3/ 2010 (C) JDM

Its simple...your supposed to move on..get over it..get gone.. i cant..i have to deal with seein shit every time i close my eyes like its still motha-fuckin '99 i been out the house since 2003...doin everything for fuckin me.. the thought of my independence shakes me inside..i was raised well..but my parents both died..i just saw images of everyone with my eyes wide shut...my life keep changing and its fuckin my head up..business is great and i'm doing big things but the streets are still grimy and my patience is real thin! i'm stressed the fck out but i'm gonna win!

time restrictions, priorities and luck..how can i follow my heart or my mood when shyt gets fucked up..right this minute i wanna hop on the bus..go to the cemetery and speak up.. talk to my mom..like i'm talkin to god..i cant go to church because i'm mentally scarred..when i walk in i'm overwhelmed with emotion..every time i'm there its dramatic..a wake, a memory, or a prayer for my devotion... i cant find peace.. i talk to god in my sleep..i see my dreams laid out for me.. i saw my future a few times..but i believe in finding out my fate on my awake grind...everything is up in the air one minute im chillin with friends the next minute they dead? r.i.p. adan gonzalez, shauny and more ...im runnin out of wake outfits i gotta hit the mall..i've run out of tears ..now its just a silent stare...i look at photos all the time to feel like they here... talkin to family and friends..i miss them much but my work consumes me.. the real ones stick around while others complain..what if u never saw me again?..

enjoy whatever form of communication we have..life is to short to be such a drag..i cant fight my priorities or id black an eye..i gotta make money gotta reach for the stars in the sky..i'm listening to biggies album ready to die..hes one of the best to ever do it...an inspiration to most....im tryina make it with my goals from coast to coast..when i do make sure u raise ya glass for a toast ..

-jdm.str8 heartfelt venting.one